Ůa­ sem enginn sag­i mÚr um SN Šttlei­ingar

N˙ er unni­ a­ undirb˙ningi frŠ­slukv÷lds um SN lei­ina ß vegum ═slenskrar Šttlei­ingar. Nřju fˇlki fylgja breytingar og nřr framkvŠmdarstjˇri CCAA Ý KÝna hefur gefi­ ˙t a­ n˙ ver­i l÷g­ meiri ßhersla ß Šttlei­ingu barna me­ sÚr■arfir. Innan ═.Ă. hefur veri­ unni­ miki­ undirb˙ningsstarf svo ■etta form Šttlei­inga megi fara sem best fram. Starfshˇpur vann ß seinasta ßri vi­ ger­ frŠ­sluefnis og n˙ hefur KristÝn Svala Jˇnsdˇttir ljˇsmˇ­ir, hj˙krunarfrŠ­ingur og kj÷rmˇ­ir teki­ a­ sÚr undirb˙ning kynningarkv÷lds um SN lei­ina.

En hversu vel sem a­ verki er sta­i­ er samt alltaf eitthva­ sem enginn minnist ß, e­a ■a­ upplif­i Tamera Wong a­ minnsta kosti eftir a­ h˙n Šttleiddi dˇttur sÝna Ý BandarÝkjunum. Vi­ laumumst hÚr Ý frßs÷gn hennar af ver­launavefnum Rainbowkids.áá

Vegna tŠknilegra vankannta Ý veftˇli ═.Ă.
eru or­ sem vor me­ gŠsal÷ppum Ý upprunalegu greininni
birt hÚr skßletru­ en ßn gŠsalappanna.



What No One Ever Told Me About Special Needs Adoption
Loving our perfect child


February 03,2010 / Tamera Wong


Adopting several children from China has been a joy-filled, faith-building, abundant adventure. We have four biological children and feel as though we are experienced parents. However, sometimes even experienced parents can find that they are not adequately prepared for some issues.

During November of 2006, we decided that we would pursue a special needs child on a waiting child list. Our agency diligently prepared us for parenting a child with special needs. Our adopted daughter was born with a congenital right limb transverse deficiency. This is a lot of medical jargon to say that her right arm ends 3 inches above where her elbow would have been. She has one little partial digit on that limb. While preparing for her adoption, I read about limb differences and I considered the challenges we may face as a family. I prepared for the possibilities of surgery and maybe prosthetics. I learned the proper, politically correct terminology for limb differences and prepared my children at home for the difference they would see in their new sister.

I was very pleased with the amount of preparation that went into the adoption of a special need child. However, once she was placed in my arms and I began to watch this little girl unfold, I realized that there were some serious issues that we were not prepared for. In fact, I am pretty certain that these issues were not ever once disclaimed to me or my husband by any social worker.

Here is a list of items that no social worker ever prepared us for:

1. No one ever told us that when we had our adoptedáspecial needsádaughter evaluated by an occupational therapist, that she would be 6-months ahead of her typically developing two-armed peers in motor development 

2. No one ever told me that at age 2, she would figure out how to climb to the top of a bunk bed with her one arm just to admire her brother's trophies on a high shelf.

3. No one ever told me that she would be only 19 pounds but have the desire, tenacity, and strength of a Super Bowl bound football team.

4. No one ever told me that in one short year of knowing her I would learn more about not giving up than I had in all of my lifetime.

5. No one ever told me that her older brothers would be so touched by the beauty that she emits even with heráimperfectáarm that they would tell her everyday how beautiful she is.

6. No one ever told me that she would touch the lives of total strangers with her genuine zest for life.

7. No one ever told me that a 2-year-old from China would be so grateful for pretty clothes and a family to call her own.

8. No one ever told me that ouráspecial needsádaughter would learn to balance on a regular swing and pump her legs earlier than any of ouránon-special needsákiddos did.

9. No one ever told me that our daughter was just a regular child disguised as aspecial needsáchild because her arm is a little different.

10. No one ever told me that when our family stepped out in faith thinking we would make a difference in this little girl's life, that we would be the ones whose lives were changed and were blessed beyond measure in just knowing this little fire cracker whom we call Bethany Grace.

If you are reading this and you are a family that is considering aáspecial needsadoption, I just want to warn you that there are some things that no one may ever prepare you for. There are some hidden blessings and unexpected pleasures that you may find as a surprise. And just for the record, I have gotten over the fact that our social worker did not prepare us for the above mentioned items.